Material greed of Chinese women turns Chinese men off; Western women become popular
Li Lei published on the Web an article titled “Chinese men love Western women,” asking Western women living in Beijing if they are willing to foster a long-term and serious relationship with a Chinese man. By long-term and serious relationship, he means marriage.
In China, there are way fewer Chinese men marrying Western women than Chinese women marrying Western men. Why Li Lei has decided to go off the beaten track?
It turns out that the 30-year-old Beijing resident who once studied in the Netherlands and Britain has found himself more attracted to the traits of the Western female character. He thinks that these women are more independent, straight-forward and less coddled than Chinese women.
Being outspoken is what they especially appeal to Li Lei. “If they have something they want, they will tell you directly.”
In addition to posting personals on dating sites, Li Lei, a project manager at a foreign trade company participates in mixed-race speed dating parties and international cultural exchange activities.
Tony, a 28 year-old from Hunan Province, has a fondness for Western women too. He has been an analyst at a multinational corporation for five years, and are in contact with female foreign colleagues on a regular basis.
Tony had two relationships with Chinese women, but was angered by having to find out why his girlfriend had mood swing. As a result, he made up his mind two years ago that women from North America or Europe suit him better.
Chinese women only marry you when you own a mansion
Part of the reason why they now prefer Western women is an increasing number of Chinese women are materialist, and will not make a commitment unless their men buy them a piece of real estate.
Chinese men who, like Li Lei and Tony, only lay eyes on Western women are still in the minority. However, as more foreign girls come to China for language study and life experiences and more Chinese men go out, the share is going to grow.
Fishbowl Events, an organization run by two foreign women that hosts speed dating parties in Beijing, found that participation of Chinese male has significantly grown over the past few years.
Ola Zdzarska, one of the founders, said that in 2007, only 20% of the participants are Chinese male. Now the percentage has risen to 40%. Some among them indeed only pay attention to the foreign female.
Selected comments by Chinese netizens
There are good girls everywhere. You have a bad luck if you don’t meet any. With globalization and development of telecommunication, mixed-race relationship is surely to be more common, but will not become mainstream anytime soon. But future belongs to the multiracial. Chinese women nowadays were born and brought up in a less-developed country. It is only natural to take material conditions into account marriage-wise. Western women were born and grew up in a developed country, and they may care less about material things. But it doesn’t mean they don’t have any requirement. Similarly, a woman brought up in poverty or needy environment values materials and is industrious and thrifty in managing a household. It is not bad if an ordinary man finds a woman who knows her way around budget. Besides, many Chinese women are financially independent. Asking for real estate and a car is but a result of influences of tradition. After all, these material things belong to both of the couple after marriage. And Chinese women are are more willing to working for pay(another result of poverty in the old days). Western women might be able to work after one childbirth. But two? They mostly stay home, and shift the financial burden to their husbands. Statistically, Western women are also prone to extramarital affairs. Because their kids will not demand much mother’s attention when they become of school age, but moms were not able to get back to work after a long hiatus in the social network. They are free, so they have an affair…In fact, there is no good or bad, right or wrong when it comes to marriage. Whoever suits you is the best.
(Original reply was in English)No matter what, you can not ignore the fact that Chinese women are more selfish in general. They are more inclined to take other than to give. They are not good wife’s material.
Reply to greentree01: Don’t say “Chinese women are more selfish in general” simply because your marriage or your father’s is a failure. That’s only your opinion, not a fact.
Chinese women are tenderer, prettier and sexier than foreign women. This is an undisputable fact.
hehe, it is tiring to guess other’s mind. Let girls try reading guys’ mind, she would know how tiring it is. Many Chinese girls are not straight-forward. It is a disservice to both themselves and guys. But there are fewer women than men, so a woman always has some man who spoils her. It cannot be changed anytime soon. You would know whether you are tired. One man’s meat is another man’s poison.
We’d better marry black girl from Africa. They are usually faithful, and do not ask for any house. Being able to afford a tent is fine. Mature Western women, unless they are much older than you or very unpopular, most white women want to marry white women, but you can still have a shot at it on British or American dating sites. No women wanting to get married do not hope for a house.
Forget it. It must be another article written by a bumpkin who’s never been abroad. All women in the world think alike. You are sidelined if you have no house or car, no matter if she’s from North America or Europe. You will still have to fend for her after marriage.