Jilted woman shows explicit photos in court to sue man for disowning love child
Yanyan (pseudonym)has suffered much censure and insult after she gave birth to a daughter out of wedlock. Every time her two-year-old daughter asks about “papa,” Yanyan cannot refrain her tears. However, as her daughter grows, she becomes stronger than ever. She is the first mother in Hebei province to file a lawsuit for the rights of a child born out of wedlock. Even though she has lost her case in the first trial at the local court, the appellate court revoked the verdict and ordered a retrial. Determined to win the case, Yanyan brought along her daughter with intimate photos with the child’s biological father and recordings as new evidence.
Yanyan filed a lawsuit against Xu Qiang, the kid’s father, to Qinghe County Court on April 19, 2011. On May 20, the court ruled against her. She immediately appealed her case to a higher court. On September 27, 2011, the People’s Intermediate Court of Xingtai decided that “Unclear facts might have influenced the judgment” and required that the case be tried again in the lower court.
However, the story took a happy twist earlier this year: On January 9, Qinghe County Court ruled that Xu Qiang pays Yanyan a total amount of 66,321 yuan (US$10,500) as child support till she reaches age 18, after Yanyan’s intimate photos, recordings of personal conversations with Xu Qiang, and Xu Qiang’s reluctance to take a paternity test were taken into account, from which the court inferred paternity.
Xu Qiang, unsatisfied with the outcome of a trial, brought an appeal on January 19. On March 21, 2011, Xingtai’s Intermediate Court heard the case. Yanyan’s is the first mother in Hebei province to stand up for her love child’s rights. The picture shows Yanyan arrived in Xingtai from Qinghe county for the new retrial.
As the Chinese society becomes more permissive, young couples may cohabitate for a long while without being legally married. In cities as well in the countryside, many couples living together would take cohabitation as a de facto marriage and are unaware that the Chinese marriage law does not recognize such de facto marriages.
China is still a male-dominant society, and the Chinese traditional culture values female virginity so much that even to this day, a woman who lost virginity before marriage is still frowned upon by the older generations and some young conservative Chinese, and is seriously advantaged when the relationship is ended by the man.
According to Liu Donggang, director of center for psychological counseling at Chongqing Normal University, costs of cohabitation without a marriage license on the women, socially, culturally, physically, financially and psychologically, are very high, and some women even paid a heavy price, whereas such costs on men are almost zero.
“If a couple live together without getting married, and later they break up. If the woman becomes a pregnant or even has given birth to a child, if the man is a womanizer and a liar, if the man dies, if the woman is jilted after having some illness – in none of the cases will the woman be protected by law,” the Women’s Federation of the city of Xuzhou, Jiangsu province warns in a news interview it gave to the local newspaper, “We don’t encourage cohabitation without getting married. Marriage is one of the most important events of one’s life. One cannot let emotions hold sway, and can never dally with it.”
According to Yanyan, she started the relationship with Xu Qiang in April, 2009. They lived together for almost a year. Because early ultrasound diagnosis showed that the fetus is a male, she continued to live under Xu’s roof during her pregnancy. Xu’s mother even approved of their relationship and took good care of her.
Her life was dramatically transformed after the second ultrasound diagnosis 30 weeks into the pregnancy. “After his family learned that the baby is a girl, they started to give us the cold shoulder. They began to set up blind dates for Xu Qiang, kicked me, seven-month pregnant at the time, out of their home and cut off contact with me.” The picture shows that before the retrial at Xingtai People’s Intermediate Court, Yanyan discussed her case with her lawyer in a vehicle.
Since the child was born, Xu refused to see them. Now he even denies any blood tie with the baby. The picture shows that Yanyan shed tears on recalling her arduous efforts of fighting for her daughter’s right to a relationship with the father in the past year.
“I am unmarried to this day, and I have never had any child with a woman. Nor have I ever lived with you,” Yanyan knocked on Xu’s door countless times, hoping that Xu can acknowledge the kid as his own child, but each time, she got such an answer. Later, Xu closed its door to her. Xu even turned down Yanyan’s request for a paternity test. The picture shows the little hand of Yanyan’s daughter wipe off the teardrops on Yanyan’s face.
“I can raise my daughter on my own, but I can’t accept that the Xus refuse to acknowledge the child. I would feel contented even if they only buy a pair of shoes or prepare a meal of dumplings during the holidays, as long as they acknowledge the child,” Yanyan said. On March 21, The People’s Intermediate Court of the city of Xingtai reviewed the case. The court did not give the verdict that day. The moment Yanyan stepped out of the courtroom, she told the reporter, “My daughter’s birth is a heavy blow to me financially, but it has made me muster up courage to live. Even though my daughter was born out of wedlock, she is still entitled to the right to be loved and cared for by both parents.” The pictures are photo what Yanyan submitted to the court as evidence to prove her previous intimate relationship with Xu Qiang.
“This is where we will find daddy,” After the trial, Yanyan said to her daughter, while pointing at the building of Xingtai’s People’s Intermediate Court.
Selected comments from iFeng:
“Court ruled that Xu Qiang pays Yanyan a total amount of 66,321 yuan (US$10,500) as child support till she reaches age 18,” 18 years? 60K? The judge, do you think it is for supporting your father?
I support this young mother! At the same time, I wanna tell the father of the child: Supporting your own child makes you look more like a real man than if you keep a mistress or a pet!
It’s just a matter of child support. Why do you deny? It is so against common sense. If it is really about money, the man is really stingy! What a lovely child? It is worth the arduous effort!
An illicit intercourse leads to the jilting at the end. This is a social problem caused by clashes among the permissiveness and traditional values.
I despise the man and his family….
What a pretty woman! You shouldn’t have given your love to him.
An irresponsible pair. They were busy with themselves having fun at the time, and victimized their own child. Living together and getting pregnant is already a mistake. And they did multiple gender tests. Do you think it is merely a game?
Neither is a good bloke! This woman deserves it.
I discourage sexual activity before marriage, and I am even more opposed to giving birth out of wedlock! This slutty woman is truly a disgrace on us from Hebei!
If even forced demolition is allowed, why can’t paternity test be forced?
What can I say? Who can you possibly blame for your own immorality and promiscuity?
Preferring men over women is a cancer on the Chinese minds. Women should think twice before they get married and give birth.